Melinda and Jake. Day 7.

“I've written a whole notebook page of things I've learned already this week.”

 

Melinda

1. Tell us about your time with your bae today.

On Monday I wrote out a plan of the things I need to do if I want my heart to get invested in Jake. Item number 1: Go on a date with a fun activity where I can be myself. So I asked Jake on a date to a Haunted Bike Tour of Provo with our dear mutual friends, Mitch and Amberlee. I was feeling really good about this plan, but when I got in the car to drive to Jake's house, I got a text. The tour was cancelled on account of the stupid rain. So, Plan B: Pickleball in the church gym. I borrowed some leggings and tennis shoes, we picked up the church key, drove to the church and! The gym was closed because the floor had just been refinished. What the heck!! Plan C: Waffle Love & chatting with our friends.
Even though I was disappointed to not ride my bike around asking people who they gonna call, I still think the night was good for me in our relationship. Hanging out with our friends reminded me that just because it's a Relationship with a capital "R," it's not so different than being friends. And Jake and I have been friends before. 
Another thing I realized is that I've probably been too caught up in my own insecurities and figuring myself out that I've misplaced my focus. As we sat in our friends' beautiful old home, Amberlee asked Jake thoughtful question after thoughtful question. She's known Jake from so many years back since college — they were friends before she even met her husband — and her questions revealed all the interest of a caring friend. I realized I haven't asked Jake those questions, but those are all the questions I should be asking him if I really want to get to know him and develop interest.


2. CONGRATS! Day 7 is here. We’re so proud of you. In what ways do you see benefits from the TDB challenge so far?

Even though I'm not convinced I like Jake yet, I'm somehow convinced that I want to give relationships more of a try before I quit on them. I think there's value in dating people and practicing relationships for the sake of education. I've written a whole notebook page of things I've learned already this week. I share all those here (and frankly I've already shared most throughout these logs) but honestly, I think the best advice for someone else is what I just said — stick in a relationship for a little longer than you thought (assuming it's healthy), and then you can write your own notebook page of lessons just for you.


3. You’ve known your bae for 7 full days. Pop quiz. What is their drink of choice? What is their favorite food?

I've only ever seen him drink water, so I'll go with water???  Chicken nuggets (Fine! I a little cheated. Maybe I just happened to ask my friend about her vegetarian life and she just so happened to ask Jake about his food choices and it was totally unplanned and natural and it just happened, okay?)


4. Also, what is your drink of choice and favorite food?

Milk (because I'm assuming it's with cookies)  Dessert


5. Tell us something funny that happened between you and your bae so far.

Today Jake texted me to ask if I wanted the leftovers I'd abandoned in his fridge, but I was on the phone so I didn't respond for like 7 minutes. When I called him he asked the same question to which I excited replied, "yes!" because leftovers are the best because they mean one meal I don't have to figure out. Turns out Jake thought I would say no. He'd already eaten them.

 

Jake

1. Tell us about your time with your bae today.

We went on a double date with some mutual friends of ours Mitch and Amberlee. We tried to go on a haunted bike ride, but it got cancelled because of weather, then we tried to go play pickle ball at the the church but when we got there, they were redoing the floors, then we tried to go to Waffle Love and we fricken succeeded! We had some fantastic waffles, man I forgot how much I love that place. Then we just sat there and talked and laughed a lot! Then we back to Mitch and Ambie's and stat and talked till Mitch fell asleep and it was 12:30. I couldn't believe how late it was and how long we'd all been talking and laughing. It was great, they're great people. One thing I've learned is when something bothers me in a relationship I will almost always bring it up but I'm scared of coming out and saying it. So I usually am holding the shield of comedy as I bring it up and if there's an audience that's even better. So there at Waffle Love I told Mitch and Ambie about the conversation from last night about my poetry book. And I don't think Melinda loved having the conversation but we were able to talk about it and laugh about it which made me feel better. But I don't think Melinda was able to honestly portray her feelings about how she felt about it with an audience and while we were joking about it instead of being honest and serious about it. I should probably talk to her and see if it bothered her the fact that I brought it up in front of people and was joking about it and then I should ask her for her honest feelings about it.

2. CONGRATS! Day 7 is here. We’re so proud of you. In what ways do you see benefits from the TDB challenge so far?

Thanks! I think it's super interesting seeing if I can make it work after reaching the point of thinking that we should just be friends. So that could be very beneficial to see if we can get past that. Also writing these daily logs and kind of breaking down what I learned everyday from the relationship has been super good. I've never been great at writing in a journal but this has honestly got me excited to start doing that. And I need to type my journal because writing it by hand just takes too long but for some reason I'm always worried that technology is going to break and suddenly I won't have my journal. Hah! So instead I tell myself I'm going to write in one by hand and then I never do. So I'm losing my journal by not writing one at all.

3. You’ve known your bae for 7 full days. Pop quiz. What is their drink of choice? What is their favorite food?

Her favorite food is sushi. And her favorite drink is... water? I mean probably not but that's the only thing she's ordered when we go out. But no sane human being's favorite drink is water. So I'm gonna guess that its chocolate milk.

4. Also, what is your drink of choice and favorite food?

My drink of choice is Jones Soda, either Fufu Berry or Berry Lemonade. And my favorite food is probably Pizza.

5. Tell us something funny that happened between you and your bae so far.

Yesterday when Melinda was over we had Noodles and Co. and she didn't eat all of hers so her leftovers were in my fridge so today I was looking for something for dinner and I couldn't find anything so I texted Melinda and asked if she wanted her leftovers. She didn't respond and called me 20 minutes later to tell me the plan for the night and at the end of the conversation I said, "oh and do you want your leftovers from last night." She gave an excited, "YES! Thank you!" And I was like, "Well then I'm really sorry because I already ate them." I texted and she gave no response and to me no response is a yes! Not always but in this case I was so hungry and everything else I had was going to take forever to cook. I felt bad but she was really nice about it and said it was fine. I thought for sure she'd say she didn't want them and then I'd say good because I already ate them. And then we'd laugh but instead I was kind of a jerk. My bad. I don't even know if that's funny, it might just be a sad story.