Melinda and Jake. Day 5.

“You might as well call us Justin Timberlake and Lance Bass we're so in sync.”

 

Melinda

1. Tell us about today. How is your bae doing?

Tonight I had acting class and Jake had improv class (Crazy how well that strangely turned outl. You might as well call us Justin Timberlake and Lance Bass we're so in sync.). Since we live far-ish, it meant today we just chatted on the FaceTime. I learned that Jake likes to go to the park and throw his boomerang, he can juggle fire batons, and believes you should swear at your children (that's clearly out of context, his thought was actually really insightful, but that's all I'm going to say ). 

Jake seems to be doing well. He did keep yawning, so either he's tired or I'm boring and he wants to break up. 

2. Scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry?

Six

3. How has your experience thus far been different from your expectations? In what ways were you correct?

This experience has been a lot harder than I expected. I thought I wouldn't feel stressed because I knew Jake, so I'd at least be happy hanging out with him as a friend, but calling it dating has created a lot of stress for me. I really just didn't expect that. 

I was correct that this would be the single best learning experience dating has to offer. I've learned so much and it's only been 5 days. 

4. Other thoughts?
My thought is here is a graph representing my emotions for the last 5 days:

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On Monday I was feeling very: "I can't do this, I don't like him, I don't even want to like him." Today, I'm having a li'l crush on that guy. So we'll see what tomorrow brings... I'm actually pretty embarrassed with myself for being so all over the place for the last five days.  

5. What are your top 5 most listened to songs this week?

I love this question even though I'm scared my songs are going to be psychoanalyzed to determine what they reveal about my relationship. For the record, I haven't even been in a relationship for a week. So, one grain of salt please!

Super Far - LANY 
Idk - DLX

Missing You - Ingrid Michaelson

Paradise - Bazzi

Devils In The Canyon - The Strike

 

Jake

1. Tell us about today. How is your bae doing?

So today was the first day that we haven't seen each other. But we did Facetime for a good while and it was fun! I noticed in facetiming I'm not as good of a listener as I am in person. While facetiming she talked for probably three minutes straight and I was looking at her but I was thinking about something else and honestly I couldn't tell you one word of what she said. I probably should have just been honest and been like wait say that again I didn't really catch it the first time. But I just nodded and said that's interesting and then said what I was thinking about. Does that make me a garbage person? Right now typing this out I feel like a garbage person. Especially because I've done this so many times to so many people. Melinda if you're reading this right now I'm sorry for being a garbage person and fake listening to you. I will do better!


2. Scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry?

7

3. How has your experience thus far been different from your expectations? In what ways were you correct?

So right now I'm at a point where I see Melinda as a great friend. Someone who I love talking to and enjoy being around but I'm not quite at feeling "in love" you know? I'm still feeling like, "Hey come over and let's hang out." But where I want to be is like, "OH BABY! I freakin LOVE you! Get your sweet bum over here because wow I'm obsessed with you!" Which I mean getting to that point takes time. And I would like to get there but I'm not there yet. Honestly if we were outside of 30 Day Bae I would probably just be good friends with her and stop pursuing her romantically. That spark just doesn't feel like it's there. Is that what chemistry is? Or is chemistry how well you get along? I don't know because we're a probably 9 in getting along and probably a 5 in having the spark of love. So I think that's why I put chemistry at a safe 7 right in between.

4. Other thoughts?

I'm genuinely curious to see how this pans out over the next several weeks. If we will be able to find that spark or not because I'm gonna be trying to find it! Maybe we just need to smooch. But in the past smooching hasn't really solved any problems in relationships it's only made them more complicated. So maybe we shouldn't. But maybe we should...

5. What are your top 5 most listened to songs this week?

100 Bad days by AJR

Mute by Josie Dunne

Super Bass by Nikki Minaj (oops)

Don't throw out my legos by AJR (I've been loving their new album)

Cool with it by Josie Dunne (I saw her in concert with Ben Rector a couple weeks ago and don't tell my Bae but I love her)