Melinda and Jake. Day 20.

“I mean there's still ten more days so there's still time!”

 

Melinda

1. What was your day like?

It was 10:02 when we got to Sodalicious. Apparently, they close at 10:00. But whatever I guess because Jake doesn't think their cookies are the food equivalent of Beyonce writing a song about you — like I do!! So Jake had the great idea to go across the street to Target to get stuff to make our own lemonade with pureed mango (my Sodalicious drink of choice). 

But I messed up. I'm usually up for a good debate — I like learning about someone else's point-of-view — but we started arguing about something trivial and something about it triggered me. Whether it was because I was taking what he was saying personally, or because I felt like he didn't want to hang out with me, or maybe because I was sad my friends are backpacking Death Hollow tomorrow without me since I decided I shouldn't go if Jake wasn't, or maybe it had nothing to do with anything other than the fact that I bombed my audition today — I don't know. But I wasn't feeling very kind. And I feel sorry about it.

Anyways, since I was getting uncharacteristically heated talking about something unimportant, I felt like I couldn't bring up a conversation about something important. I was scared if I did, I wouldn't be kind today. So I didn't talk about any of the things and I a little bit hate myself that I continue to not follow through on this.

*This log was not sponsored by Sodalicious. But yo Sodalicious! If you wanna sponsor me I'm here for you and your treats that taste like a brownie and a cookie had a baby.



2. HAPPY DAY TWENTY! In ten words (or less, we ain’t stingy), sum up what you’ve learned so far.

I still have a lot to learn about communication.



3. Scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry?

Now that I've finally established what I'm measuring here, I feel good about saying 7.2



4. You’re 20 days in. What has surprised you the most about this experience?

How positively being in a relationship makes me feel about relationships. For so long I've wanted a relationship, but I've definitely run away from them. This experience is showing me that there's more good to be found in relationships than I even thought.



5. Gif to describe your feelings

Oh Justise, age 11, I get you, girl. 

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Jake

1. What was your day like?

Today we got together for just like an hour or so. We tried to go to Swig and it closed 2 minutes before we got there. It was sad. So we went to the store and tried to get the things to make the drink Melinda wanted and then we went to my house and made it. She said we didn't really come close to the drink. haha but we tried. I thought the drink we made was pretty good. She didn't finish hers. Tonight we had our first discussion that actually felt like she was really bothered by. We were discussing the differences between introverts and extroverts and if you should try to become a person who has a good balance between those two. I won't say who's opinions were what because I'm afraid I'll skew it to my perspective being the right one. But things were a little intense for a little bit as we talked about this. It seems like it's a sensitive subject for her for some reason. Maybe I should explore it... After we changed the subject things were better and we had a good time.

2. HAPPY DAY TWENTY! In ten words (or less, we ain’t stingy), sum up what you’ve learned so far.

You can have a successful relationship without it ending in marriage.

3. Scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry?

6

4. You’re 20 days in. What has surprised you the most about this experience?

I'd say it's that we can have a great time together consistently for this long without feeling annoyed with her and without me really feeling like the chemistry is there. I thought for sure if I wasn't interested I'd get to the point of being annoyed with her and really wanting this to be done. But that hasn't been the case. I mean there's still ten more days so there's still time! But I don't see that happening I think if that was going to happen it would have already.

5. Gif to describe your feelings

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