John and Jane. Day 2.

 
 
 

John

Tell us about today!

We saw free solo with our friends.

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

I could never free climb. Didn’t talk much because we were in the movie but after I walked her to her car and we made plans for the rest of the week.  

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Nine. We were with our friends watching a movie.  It was fun.

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Six. There’s a lot of potential.

How are you feeling about this experiment?

Honestly today anxiety hit.

I don’t know if it was because we watched a high stressed movie or if it’s the experiment.  I’m not an anxious person but this experiment is really pushing me.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Nine.  

Other thoughts?

I never thought I would look this forward to therapy. 😂

I was thinking no one likes to be assigned to hang out with them. Even if I were to fall in love with her outside the experiment because we have not chosen each other there was extra stress.  I realized the importance of choice. I am a believer in therapy and have had good experiences so free therapy was a added bonus that cancelled out some of the stress.

I put a 9 in chemistry because I think there is a lot of potential and we are compatible.  





Jane

Tell us about today!

We went and saw Free Solo the movie with a few mutual friends.

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

I learned that he may not be as into the outdoors as I am. I also learned that I write people off for really little things, and it isn't just a "oh I wonder if this would bug me?" It's more of a... No I really actually don't think I could date them.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Five. I just felt neutral about it. It was not like we were chatting or having conversations, it was fun to be with our friends but I think I'm realizing we will need to carve out time to just be together so we can get deeper.

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Five. Very neutral. I don't think I am going to get a relationship out of this, but I guess that wasn't the point in the first place.

How are you feeling about this experiment? 
I feel like this will be a great learning experience. I think my expectations and what I want to get out of this have completely shifted. My mentality. isn't really to make this work with him. It's to see if I can learn skills to better myself and whoever I date in a relationship, and see if over time I can appreciate things in a human that I wouldn't have found if I didn't take the time to commit.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Three.

Other thoughts?

I have lots of thoughts. But in the end of the night I texted John and told him I wanted to make sure this experiment was a good use of our time. That we should just be brutally honest and open and see how that changes and affects a relationship. That if we are going to do this we need to be fully into this and not just pass the days by. It was really cool to see him on the same page and he wants to learn and be better just the same. So I think going head to head in this experiment will be awesome. I am not too sure what I am hoping to get out of this and I think after talking to him tomorrow I'll have a better Idea of where he's at because we haven't gotten down to the details yet.


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John and Jane30 Day Bae Team