John and Jane. Day 1.

“I have known John for about a year.”

 
 
 

John

Tell us about today!

I had a hunch it was Jane. One of our friends told us she was selected and meeting her bae today.  But I didn’t know for sure. I was a little nervous but feeling good about everything.

What was your first impression?

She’s very attractive. That takes a big weight off of everything.  There wasn’t really a first impression because we already knew each other.

Tell us about the date!

We went to Aubergine. We just couldn’t believe it.  We we laughing a lot thinking it was funny we were matched. She’s very easy to talk to. No awkward questions, again since we kind of know each other. If I have to see someone everyday, she’s a very easy person to be around. Great smile, laughs a lot and it was genuinely fun.

What did you learn about yourself?

Nothing.

On a scale from 1-10 How would you rate your date tonight.

Nine. I realized it’s not gonna to be hell for 30 days.

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Six. Tough question. I want to see how it goes as we continue.

Other thoughts?

A little nervous how this will play out. But excited at the same time. Looking forward to the rest of the 30 days!




Jane

Tell us about today!

I was pretty nervous. I know 30 days isn't forever but it feels like a long time, when you start thinking about how many times you'll see/how much time you're going to be spending with this random human that neither of you picked each other. I was really intimidated. But also the wait to find out who it was going to be was almost worse in my brain than any situation that could have been, so I was excited to just go and see who this person was.

What was your first impression?

I WAS SHOCKED. I have known John for about a year. I've always thought John was cute, and we always had the same group of friends and texted here and there. I was honestly pretty shocked and it made my anxiety go through the roof. In my opinion knowing the person I was committing to was scarier than if it was a stranger. Less on the line if it was a stranger, no pressure from any outside sources. Just you and that human and at the end of 30 days you could cut it off cold turkey. But knowing them was a different story in my head. BUT BACK TO IMPRESSION. I always thought John was really kind and fun, always smiling and happy. Love for life and living it to the fullest which I really appreciate in people.

Tell us about the date!

We went to Aubergine for dinner on the date. The conversation was good. It felt like catching up with an old friend (because that's what it actually was) but now he was my boyfriend. It was cool to see how much we had in common, and how open he was to all my crazy life dreams and goals was really reassuring. But I already knew that about John, so it was just a good conversation and fun to catch up with what we've been doing with life. Prior to 30 Day Bae I probably would have gone on another date with John because he is so open minded and kind. I can't say there were sparks or like wow I want to stay and hang all night long. Which is usually if I'm being honest what I am looking for after dates, that initial excitement and stoke. But I didn't really feel that.

What did you learn about yourself?

I AM DEATHLY AFRAID OF COMMITMENT. In all aspects of life. So cheers to 30 days of learning to commit, because heaven knows I need all the help I can get.

On a scale from 1-10 How would you rate your date tonight.

Seven. I was so stressed thinking about how we were already friends and I kind of had already written it off in my mind as friends, so it didn't feel "date-ish"

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Three. Same as above. It will be really hard for me to switch to thinking about this as a relationship rather than a friendship. I couldn't tell you why.

Other thoughts?

I know that John and I will have fun for the next 30 days. Part of me wonders why I am committing my 30 days to someone I already have known and wonder well if we knew each other, and could have dated, then we probably aren't going to work out. But I really think we will learn a lot and am hoping for it to be a good experience on both ends of this relationship.


 
John and Jane30 Day Bae Team