Jake and Emily. Day 8.

“All the bravery points.”

 
 
 

Jake

Tell us about today!

Emily picked me up and we went over to her parent's house to eat pizza and play games. I was there with her mom, brother, sister-in-law, sister, and sister's boyfriend. I feel like it took me a minute to warm up, but after we started playing card games, I was laughing and joking with them. It all felt natural and comfortable. I loved it and had a great time. That's the kind of think I do with my family when we get together.

After we went over to one of her parents neighbor's house to see their halloween decorations. Wow. They spent 440 person hours setting up this whole thing. It was quite impressive.

A part of me thought it would be weird to meet her family so early, but it felt like a lot less pressure because of the nature of this experiment. It turns out that her brother and sister-in-law actually had no idea about this whole thirty day bae thing. They just thought we were a normal couple. Fooled them, ha!

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

Emily really does have a great family. They are a lot of fun and have a lot of energy. They are also really funny. It must run in the family.

I also learned that Emily was considering bailing out of this experiment early on. Understandably so. It was kind of scary. We are both in this thing for real now!

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Eight. I had a lot of fun tonight. I love pizza, and card games, and I enjoy spending time with Emily. All good things.

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Eight. I feel like we are making progress from a forced relationship to a more natural relationship. As we get to know each other, things are starting to feel more normal.

How are you feeling about this experiment?

This is good. I feel like it just gets better every day.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Seven.


Other thoughts?

🎅🏿



Emily

Tell us about today!

Jake got all the bravery points today and met half of my family. I know everyone's going to read this and think that’s way too soon. It probably was. I didn’t really think I through about how uncomfortable that might be for him considering we’re barely a week into an arranged relationship. But, I selfishly wanted to see my little brother who is in town, so we made pilgrimage out to Bountiful for family game night.

We got to my parents' house and there was a lot going on. Jake rolled with it, and it didn’t take long before everyone was laughing and playing games. He fit right in and everyone loved him. Seriously, it was so fun to have him hang out with my family!

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

He's got a competitive side that’s pretttttty funny.

Also, it turns out he was an EFY counselor the same time as my sister. He saw her when he walked in and they did that thing where you’re like “how do I know you…”. It took a minute to make the connection, but they found a picture on Facebook they were both tagged in. Small world.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Six. Honestly, today was all over the place in terms of emotions. It's pretty clear both of our feelings are inconsistent. Which is ok...some parts of the night were a 9, others were a 4/5... Guess it all averages out to be a pretty good day.

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Six. Same answer as above... I think how I'm feeling averages out to pretty good, but pretty unsure.

How are you feeling about this experiment?

I'm learning every day! 

I think it'll be interesting to see how we were feeling about the relationship over time with some sort of data... but I'm also wondering if the rating system could get in our heads too much. I think on days when I'm not feeling super positive, it makes me feel just ever so slightly worse. I do like the log overall though! 

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Six.