Jake and Emily. Day 7.

“JBae”

 
 
 

Jake

Tell us about today!

We have been texting most of the day and we did the video chat thing today again. We just talked about our days and all that jazz. Not really much else to report on that...

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

Emily is a really great listener.  She asks good questions and always seems interested in what I have to say.  

Also, Emily is hilarious.  There have been multiple times that I have laughed out loud at texting conversations we have had.  We had an entire conversation using acronyms today.  I love that she goes along with this kind of stuff.  All send pics of our conversation (All those emojis behind her name... she put those there).

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Seven. Lots of laughing. Good times.

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Seven.

How are you feeling about this experiment?

I have lots of thoughts about this thing. First of all, Emily pointed out that she never had to debate about whether or not to send the PDT (post date text). I didn't have to read into everything she did to figure out if she was interested or not and then decide whether or not to ask her out again. There was no chance for either of us to misread each other's signals. Also we realized that we never had a DTR. This has all been very nice.

I was listening to a podcast this morning about decisions. And I had been introduced to these ideas before, but it was interesting to hear it in my current situation. There is this idea in psychology that when you make a decision, you formulate a story for yourself on why that decision was was a good decision. In other words, you are more likely to think your decision was a good one just because you made the decision. So what does this mean? Now that I'm committed to Emily, it's easy to find reasons to like her. My focus is much more heavily towards her good qualities; why is it a good thing for me to be dating this girl? In other less-committed dating relationships, especially ones where I'm trying to decide if I want commit, it is much easier to focus on the negative and focus on reasons why it wouldn't work out. Committing, if even for a short amount of time, allows you to see someone through different eyes than if you were just casually going on dates.

I don't think I was fully aware of what I was getting myself into. After experiencing this thing, it became apparent to me that this could be going much worse than it is. I remember having the thought, "Oh, I got assigned to live with a person for months in a row on my mission, and we spent WAY more time together than I will be with Bae." But I've realized, Emily isn't just just someone I'm working with for a month, she is my girlfriend! There are emotions and feelings and stuff at play here. What was I thinking jumping into this? I'm really glad I did. I think I lucked out getting put with Emily. Just the thought of all the things that could have gone wrong is kind scary.

I texted her today and asked her when she was free to video chat. She sent me a range of times. It was kind of like scheduling an interview or something. It can be kind of difficult to make it fluid and natural with the expectations of the experiment.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Seven.


Other thoughts?

gn ttyl



Emily

Tell us about today!

We had a really ridiculous texting conversation earlier today. It turns out we both enjoy the efficiency of speaking in acronyms. We hopped on Facetime later to see if we really understood what the other person was saying. It was pretty crazy how close we got!

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

He goes to institute every week, and not for the social scene. Just by himself. And I think that’s cool.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Five. When the call ended, I got feeling just a little bit off and slightly anxious for whatever reason. It'll be good to see him tomorrow.

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Six.

How are you feeling about this experiment?

Can't believe I didn't know JBae a week ago, and can't believe I almost bailed.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Seven.