Jake and Emily. Day 6.

“Zero fatalities so far”

 
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Jake

Tell us about today!

We did the FaceTime thing today. So not a whole lot to report this time. We just talked about our days and chatted for 20-30 minutes.

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

Emily sometimes interviews crazy people at work. She meets some interesting people.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Seven. Just your basic talk about your day phone call. It was fun to talk to her.

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Seven. It's hard to boil this all down to one dimension. I feel good about the friendship we are developing, and it feels like our relationship is progressing as we get to know each other better. The thing that's holding me back from putting this higher is that I don't really know how she is feeling at this point. I want to feel like we are on the same page.

How are you feeling about this experiment?

I'm enjoying it. It is interesting to have to schedule in time to see each other. It feels very structured. So I think we could do better to make it feel more natural.

I texted her today and asked her when she was free to video chat. She sent me a range of times. It was kind of like scheduling an interview or something. It can be kind of difficult to make it fluid and natural with the expectations of the experiment.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Six.


Other thoughts?

I went to Subway today. They got rid of their daily specials. So that was a bummer.



Emily

Tell us about today!

Tonight I had ukulele class with my senior citizen friends at the community college. (Not a joke; it's a wonderful part of my life lately). He needed to get caught up on life. So we decided to have our first Facetime day.  

During our chat, Jake told me this crazy story about how there's some “30 Day Bae” imposter out there setting up fake matches. Yo. What is wrong with these people?? 30 Day Bae is scary enough without the fear that you're being catfished. We had a brief moment of "woah, is this real? Where am I? Are you cat fishing me? Oh well, thanks for catfishing me."

Happy Halloween.

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

His face is a good one even when he's pixelated on FaceTime with a bad wifi signal.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Seven. I generally hate FaceTime, but liked our chat. We also just had a pretty fun texting convo for the last hour that made me laugh.

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Seven.

How are you feeling about this experiment?

In a pessimistic moment during coaching, I talked about how we skipped some of the fun parts of early dating (verdict is out on that one because I think we're actually getting a lot of the fun stuff)

But we decided to start making a list of the dumb stuff we feel lucky to have skipped. Here's what we've discussed so far:

  1. The Post Date Text. Do I send it? What do I say? How does he interpret what to do with it? Do I ghost him in a passive aggressive way after he takes over three weeks to respond? (strictly hypothetical scenario of course...)

  2. DTR conversations. No more "let's not put a label on this and ruin a good thing." More like "Let's use ALL the labels and make it the weirdest thing ever and hope we don't kill one another." Zero fatalities so far. We'll probably need to have some kind of DTR in a few weeks (hopefully it's not a hard one). But this awesome team took care of the initial one by getting us lined up.

  3. I get to make bad jokes and send texts that make zero sense and not over-analyze if I did something wrong. Because even if he thinks I'm a freak... He’s still kicking it tomorrowwww

Ok, that's making me sound like a psycho (and I should probably cool it slightly since I maybe kinda like him now)...  but that's actually really cool. I feel like I'm able to be more and more comfortable around him.

He always seems to wants to know how I'm feeling and that I'm doing ok. Knowing what I'm feeling and how to articulate it is a challenge... but he's good at letting me feel like all the emotions are welcome. We've been using #safespace A LOT. Mostly in a joking way, but I feel it :). There's several things I've told him that I would probably never tell a guy after 5 days of knowing him.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Seven.

Other thoughts?

Bedtime. Love you Bae team <3