Jake and Emily. Day 5.

“Face your fears, ya know?”

 
 
 

Jake

Tell us about today!

I drove over and picked her up.  We went to a costume store to get some costume ideas for halloween.  We wandered around the store and talked and looked at costumes. We decided to be lumberjacks for halloween.  Something felt a little off to me. I couldn't quite put my finger on it. It may have just been me, but it just didn't quite feel as smooth as it has the last couple of days.  

Afterwards we went back to her place and sat on the couch and talked for a couple hours.  All in all, we spent 3 and a half hours together tonight. The time flew by and felt much more natural when we were back at her place.

We asked each other dumb questions.  I asked one of my personal favorites, "If you could have any extra body part, internal or external, what would you have and where would you put it?"  She said she wanted a beard... 🙄what a waste of a perfectly good hypothetical situation...

At one point her roommate walked in.  We talked for a minute. She asked me what I do.  I told her I work in data science. She said something like, "Oh that's exciting".  I said, "you don't actually think that's exciting do you?" She said, "No, no I don't."  And that was the end of that conversation. Hahaha. What can I say, I work in a nerdy field.  I appreciated the brutal honesty.

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

I learned about her journey to get to where she is in her career. I learned a lot more about her family. She told me about her niece and nephews and her siblings. It seems like she is very close to her family. Sounds like I'm going to go meet her family on Friday. One week in and we are already meeting the family!

I realized that I'm partially afraid of what will happen if we decide early on that this isn't going to work. I mean I'm committed, but what would this relationship look like if all we had to fall back on is commitment? There is a hard balance between keeping things light and enjoyable and fun, and keeping enough serious communication to work through the challenging things. It's not like we have had years of build up, like you would in a normal relationship. It's instant commitment with no build up. It definitely produces some unique challenges.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Seven. With the exception of the off-ish moment at the start. Things went well.  It doesn't feel like a normal relationship... obviously. This is partially because it's hard to know how much of our interaction is forced and how much is natural.  Both on my part and her part.

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Seven. I'm still feeling good! I still think we have potential, but we still a lot to learn about each other!

How are you feeling about this experiment?

This is so good for me. I'm really learning so much about myself. I would honestly recommend this to anyone who has any sort of fear about commitment. Face your fears, ya know.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Six.


Other thoughts?

🙏🏼



Emily

Tell us about today!

Today's date was Halloween costume shopping. We have a couple parties coming up and we need to look fly.

We headed over to the Pop-Up Halloween Shop in our friendly neighborhood strip mall. It wasn’t a super productive trip because we ran into a few challenges:

  1. Most of the absurd costume ideas we've been discussing are not sold in stores

  2. We both like Halloween just fine, but some of these store bought costumes are stupid expensive. We saw a SpongeBob costume priced at EIGHTY DOLLARS. Nope.

  3. We got distracted pretty easily and started playing around with foam swords and whatnot. We walked around for about 30 mins before we decided it was a lost cause and we’d figure something out later.  

It was pretty fun joking around in the store, but I really liked hanging out for a few hours afterwards. We went back to my house and listened to music and chatted and kept throwing out weird hypothetical questions.

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

I learned we're both kind of strange humans. I started to write down the hypothetical Q&A's from tonight and I got so weirded out seeing our conversations in writing. I don't think the public is ready for that.

I also learned that he's into really obscure music. I've always thought I had random taste so I was like "ok, try me." Nope. He wins. I barely recognized anything in his Spotify library, but he introduced me to some good gems!

I learned we both like learning about psychology and human behavior. We're both volunteering for a crazy social experiment so... surprise surprise :)

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Eight. Fun times. Chill times. Laughed a bunch.

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Seven. Same as yesterday. I'm enjoying my time with him a lot, but we're five days in, ya know? Such a good human though.

How are you feeling about this experiment?

I'm usually tired by the time I get to this question. I'm really seeing the beauty of commitment... but... I'll articulate why later. I need bed.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Seven.