Jake and Emily. Day 29.

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Jake

What did you do today?

We met up a bit later tonight (around 9). The first round of Bae Watch logs were posted today. So we read through all of the posts. There was a lot posted today. We felt assured that the internet probably didn't have the attention span to read all the posts that were made today.

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We made quesadillas. Then I had an urge to eat ice cream. So we went to Smith's to buy ice cream. We spent the rest of the night eating said ice cream going through Emily's logs from the month. Emily was very kind in what she wrote.

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

It's been interesting how much I have actually forgotten about the details of our relationship. I just get the sense that it's going to be very valuable to have this written record of our relationship.

I have always been very grateful to myself for the times I have journaled about the experiences I have had in dating relationships, and in other significant times of my life for that matter.

I learned that Emily went through a phase in the middle of our baeship where she was really uncertain about our relationship. I feel totally fine about that. I think that's normal and expected, especially given the nature of this relationship.

It has also become apparent to me that we each have a strong influence over the way that the other person feels about our relationship. When one of us is positive and committed, it helps the other of us feel that way as well. The same goes for negativity and uncertainty.

Emily and I had a realization tonight. Back in the day before app stores, our phones, computers, calculators, etc. had a few prepackaged games on them. The options were really limited, but the games we had were so cool and we got super invested in these dumb games. I came back to them time and time again throughout my childhood.

Point is, I legitimately enjoyed these games even though by today's standards these games are nothing great. If the same games had come out today with the thousands of games on the app stores today, people would have played them for a while, gotten bored, and moved on. There are games out there with flashier graphics and more engaging gameplay. Nonetheless, I had fun. True, legitimate, bonafide, authentic fun. I'll leave it to you to make the connection to dating.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Seven. It just feels more comfortable and natural over time.

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Seven. Feeling good.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Seven. Reading each other's logs has created a lot of transparency in our relationship. We are sharing things with each other (and the world, I guess) that normally aren't shared at this stage of a relationship. It's been very nice.





Emily

What did you do today?

30 Day Bae rolled out our log tonight from our first date. Woah doggies!! Here we go!

It ending up being a cool bonding experience to read through Jake's logs with him the other day. I wanted him to see mine too before everything got posted. So we spent an hour or so reading what I've been writing half-coherently late at night after our dates.

While I absolutely wanted to read through my logs with him, I was nervous when I first pulled them up. I've never said to a guy: "Hey, so we've been together about a month now. Do you want to read this journal about our relationship?" While I haven't written about EVERY little thought and moment, these logs do feel like a journal in a lot of ways.

It was a little uncomfortable to get a little more real with him. I think when talking about my experience with him, I've maybe downplayed some of my emotional ups and downs, so I think there were a couple things I wrote that potentially surprised him. But, as always, he responded in a great way and it's nice to feel better understood. The logs have definitely helped me understand myself better too.

It's super interesting to see how our perspectives have both varied and aligned throughout this experience. I feel like a lesson I'm constantly re-learning  is how life is about perspective. The way I understand a lot of our time together has shifted now that I have a better idea of how he's been seeing things. Getting his take on a few things I wrote has helped me feel more positive about the relationship in general.

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

I learned Jake makes a mean quesadilla.

He likes bouldering more than  top rope climbing.

He's in denial that he put our anniversary in my phone during our first date. I just screenshotted the evidence to him. Well, I guess it's not really hard evidence because I could have added it myself. But, I didn't.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Seven.

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Seven.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Seven.

Other thoughts?

One. More. Day.