Jake and Emily. Day 25.

The Double Date

 
 
 

Jake

What did you do today?

I'm planning on moving closer to a new job that I just recently accepted. I went and picked up Emily and took her with me to look at an apartment. We drove past my new office so I could show her where I'll be working. Then we made our way to the aquarium to meet up with Brian and Sarah who are also in Thirty Day Bae. This meeting was well overdue!  Instead of introducing ourselves, we took turns introducing our Bae to the other couple. It was good to meet them and learn about their experience. Near the end of the evening, Brian and I stepped away from Emily and Sarah and had a real talk about our experiences.  Despite being in the same program, we are having very different experiences. Through the whole evening, I became incredibly grateful that I was set up with Emily and that things have gone as well as they have.

Afterwards we went and ate ice cream and cookies with one of my friends to celebrate the fact that she just found out she was the target of a harmless prank that may or may not have only slightly got a little out of hand. No one got hurt. No one cried. Everyone is still friends.  

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

Man... There were a few times tonight that I thought, "Ah! That's a thing that I can write about Emily tonight!"  I can't remember any of those things...

I just texted her.  Here's what I got: When Emily was younger she wanted to be a dolphin trainer.  She is going to go see the Northern Lights next year and she is excited about it.  She likes basic white girl sushi (where it’s deep fried and not really sushi at all).  She rented a camel for her thirtieth birthday. She signed up for a class in January to learn how to make lego robots... This girl is super random.

I've been trying to figure out why things have gone so well for us and apparently haven't gone quite as smoothly for the other couples.  So, I guess today I learned that Emily and I are both the type of people that do well with weird social experiments. ...or maybe we are just lucky.  Who knows.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Eight. We bonded today over the fact that our relationship is going as well as it is.

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Seven. I may have mentioned before, we are both avoiding talking about day 31. I think that's an indication that neither of us is 100% ready to jump into a normal relationship. We are both enjoying what we have right now, but the end of this is going to force a conversation about our long-term compatibility, and that's going to do one of two things: make things more serious or end things. And I'm quite content living in this weird naive state where we don't have to make decisions about things.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Seven.

Other thoughts?

We totally should have met up with Brian and Sarah earlier.  I've learned a lot tonight!





Emily

What did you do today?

We drove out to the aquarium to meetup with Brian and Sarah for a double date.

(I think I said "Ryan" several times tonight. I’m so sorry about that, Brian. You’ve probably had a lifetime of that. I'm the worst)

It was really great meeting up with the other Bae’s. It was interesting to hear how different our perspectives were as couples and individuals.

I don't think anyone was able to totally predict what this experience would be like. Seriously, you guys have NO IDEA. But it sounds like we've all learned some good stuff.

They're both really cool people and I wish we would’ve met up sooner.

After the aquarium, we witness closure resolution to a 30 Day Bae prank that got a little out of hand. Yeah. I’ll let Jake share the details if he wants to :P

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

Jake doesn't have a strong desire to own a dog.

He doesn't care much for sushi, but he had sweet potato sushi once that he found satisfying.

I really like that he’s taken the time to keep a journal over the years. We talked a little tonight about how helpful journals are in helping you reflect and learn. Introspective people are my favorite.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Seven.

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Six.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Seven.

Other thoughts?

I am very very very thankful for Jake. He's a good bae.