Jake and Emily. Day 2.

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Jake

Tell us about today!

We were planning on going on a bike ride, but Emily's bike was "creaky and sad" from being outside all summer, so... we reverted to a walk up the avenues.  

It turned out to be better than a bike ride anyway because it gave us more of a chance to talk. The conversation flowed well.  She is easy to be around.

We almost forgot to take pictures again, but we remembered just as we were about to say goodbye.  I'm going to need lots of reminders haha.

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

She is an ENFJ. I tested as an ENTJ. So according to Briggs we are pretty similar. We talked about how we have both introverted and extroverted tendencies.

She sounds like she has a really great family. Her parents go on three dates a week. Impressive.

She cares about her health. She cares about developing good habits.

All in all she seems like a positive, motivated person!

I don't think I necessarily learned anything new about myself, but this experience is helping me see that it's possible to connect with people I might not have otherwise spent a lot of time with. A great thing. I mean it does help that we had a committee of people decide we were a good match. Minor details.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Seven. It was a good solid walk. There was never a lull in the conversation. The time flew by.

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Seven. Honestly, I still don't know much about her at this point, so it's hard to put this super high, but I like what I have learned about her so far, so I have no reason but to feel optimistic!

How are you feeling about this experiment?

I think this experiment is great! Honestly, this experiment takes away so many of the stresses of dating. Who is interested in who? Am I coming on too strong? What does she think of me? None of that matters because we are committed.

When I'm with her, I just focus on getting to know her and having a good time.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Four.

Emily

Tell us about today!

Went for a walk and had an impromptu dance lesson in his living room.

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

  1. I learned he served his mission in Scotland, but he has no desire to own a kilt.  

  2. His family has been united lately in focusing on their health, which is cool. He told me that healthy ramen is an actual real thing (I have my doubts. Healthy ramen seems like an oxymoron...)   

  3. He didn't have much of a rebellious streak as a kid. It seems like he has a long history of being a kind and good soul.

What I learned about me: I’m getting a little anxious about this thing. I know I need to chill out when I'm getting to know someone. Don’t overanalyze all the things.   

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Six. The conversation flowed pretty well and it felt more comfortable than yesterday.

The chat was pretty good, but I felt like there was a slight undertone of "ok, let's check this off for today.”  I'm a big time quality over quantity person and he said he is too. I think I'd prefer to see one another 2-3 times a week and just really make it count and make some good memories. But, we’ll give 5 days a week a go and see what there is to learn.  

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

I feel very positive about spending time with him. But if you’re asking how positive I am that this will last, that’s going to be on the lower end. I think the feeling is mutual that we’re not clicking yet.   

The age difference came up and it felt like a little bit of a buzzkill. I’m not sure it’s a dealbreaker, but I think 4.5 years is out of the norm for both of us.

I’m considering that there could be some pros of being a cougar:

  • Women outlive men. I'd get to have him around longer because he wouldn't die off as quickly. Big bonus!

  • Eva Mendes is 6 years older than Ryan Gosling. I’m more than fine with being an Eva.

  • There's 35 year old men I've gone out with who don't always remember to put on deodorant or show up to work. Age and maturity don't always go hand in hand.

I do really appreciate that he seems to be all in. He was welcoming when I came to his house today, and he just sent me a text to check-in to see how my night was. He’s approaching this in such an awesome way, but I'd be surprised if he felt like the spark was sparking

How are you feeling about this experiment?

Honestly, I'm feeling like I'd be ok with ending things and being friends if he were; but I may just need something to spark some optimism.  We signed up for a reason, so I’ll be interested to see how the chat with Jordan goes tomorrow.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Two.