Jake and Emily. Day 10.

“The experiment is starting to feel secondary to our relationship.”

 
 
 

Jake

Tell us about today!

Last night we were texting about what we would do today.  We decided that we would get together at her place after church and eat food.  I told her that I wanted to eat something with avocados because I had some avocados that I needed to use before they went bad.  She replied, "Woaaaaah! It’s like you read my mind. I have a bunch of stuff for sandwiches and was thinking I needed avocado."  So, what I'm saying is, those turkey avocado paninis we had this afternoon, they were meant to be.  A match made in heaven, as it were.

We also tried to make sweet potato fries. We kept pulling them out to find that they weren't done yet, then putting them back in. Then we got distracted and forgot about them and they burned. So, no sweet potato fries tonight unfortunately...

We had a FaceTime relationship coaching session today with Jordan.  I really, really like these coaching sessions. I feel even better about the relationship and I feel much closer to Emily. I can't really put my finger on why these things are so effective, but I'm on board.

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

I may have said this before, but Emily is a really good listener, and I'm learning that I sometimes talk too much when I'm around people that are good listeners.

Emily also makes a really good sandwich, but not quite as good at making fries apparently...  Could have just been a bad day. I'll give her the benefit of the doubt.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Eight. I feel like we connected on a deeper level today. The relationship coaching really helped facilitate that.

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Eight. I think I'm at a point where, if this experiment ended today, I would keep dating Emily.

How are you feeling about this experiment?

The experiment is starting to feel secondary to our relationship at this point. The experiment was definitely a springboard for us. I don't think we would have got to this point without this experiment. Knowing that we would be together for a month really helped me go all in and focus on trying to make this work. I think that dedicated energy on both of our parts put us in a good starting spot.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Eight.


Other thoughts?

Time for bed.



Emily

Tell us about today!

We had FaceTime coaching with Jordan and made dinner at my place.

We made paninis and sweet potato fries for dinner. The fries didn't cook long enough the first go-around, but we still ate half a pan of soggy, lukewarm fries. They really were kind of nasty, but we kept eating them for some reason.

We put the remaining fries back in the oven to crisp up, but kind of got lost in conversation. 20 minutes later... we found carbonized fries in the oven. Whoopsies.

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

Our views align in how much avocado is needed for the perfect panini (half an avocado). Pro tip: spread a little balsamic BBQ sauce on the inside

I learned we were both pretty shy kids which maybe sometimes shows itself in adulthood.

Also, Jake is smart. REALLY smart. He keeps it on the down-low and will laugh at your SpongeBob gifs... but this one is a deep thinker. Which I like.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Eight.

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Seven. We've been getting progressively closer and things are going a lot better than I expected. Which is great! But, since we didn't choose one another, I keep wondering how he’s really feeling. I wonder if there’s genuine feels or if we're making the best out of an unusual situation. I guess I can be open to the idea that it could be both. It came up today that we'd probablyyy want to continue dating if the experiment ended today, which made me feel a little more settled about things. It's going to take a while to see if the long-term compatibility is there, but I feel a lot more confident in our genuine "likingness" for one another.

How are you feeling about this experiment?

It's really really interesting to see how things can change shift quickly. We're in a totally different place now than we were this time last week. This process is helping me see all the good in another person rather than bailing when there's an off day.

As an aside, I just really love that Jordan is included in this crazy little journey. He's so easy to talk to and has great insights. Both times we've talked to him, I think Jake and I have left the conversation feeling more bonded, optimistic, and appreciative of one another. Go to therapy, people!

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Nine.