Brian and Sarah. Day 4.

“Don’t run away from your feelings.”

 
 
 
 
 

Brian

Tell us about today!

We had our couples therapy/coaching with Jordan.

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

I learned that we both have been experiencing similar emotions during this whole experience and it was very validating to hear that I wasn't the only one feeling anxious and unsure about things.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Nine. Today we had our session with Jordan and it was very good to discuss thoughts that we'd been having. He was able to ask us questions that neither of us were probably comfortable to ask the other person. It was great to have him as the moderator and to get his professional guidance!

But honestly, the best part of the night was afterwards when we drove home and we were able to have a very open and vulnerable conversation about where we were and what our goals are for these next 26 days and how we could help each other.

We have this very unique opportunity to have 30 days together to work on aspects of a relationship that, under normal circumstances, I would be too hesitant to bring up or focus on. It's like we have our own little sandbox to play in and work on things and test things out without the fear of pushing the other person away or getting rejected.


On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Eight. I feel very good about our relationship after today. It's definitely not a romantic one at this point, and I'm not sure if it will ever become romantic, but that is no longer my focus. I think we experienced another level of connection tonight through being open and honest with each other. I feel we are now on the same page and we know what the other person wants to work on and I'm excited to push forward!

I know I've said this before, but I am extremely grateful for Sarah and the chance I have to learn and grow with her.


How are you feeling about this experiment? 
After Sarah and I talked tonight, I feel much better and much more excited to move forward! Feelings of Anxiousness and stress are gone. That is something that I learned.. if you're feeling that, you should probably address it and discuss it a little bit. Don't run away from your feelings!!


On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Eight.


Sarah

Tell us about today!

Today we had our first counseling session. We wanted to meet up beforehand but I got out of work late. I met him at his house and got to meet his cousin and we talked for a bit and then left together for our session. We both didn’t really know what to expect. I felt a little awkward at the session at first but it wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be. Afterwards we drove back to his house and we sat in my car for a while talking. We shared with each other what our goals were for this experiment and had a vulnerable conversation. Then we went inside and sat and talked with his roommates for a bit before I went home.

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

I learned that we both are excited to use this time together to really work on things that have been hard for us in past relationships. I learned that if you give a little bit of yourself up to vulnerability a lot of good can come from it.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Ten. We had such a good conversation together in my car. We were both able to share things we were scared to talk about and we are both alive haha. And from my perspective, my respect has grown for Brian.


On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Eight. We were able to have a hard conversation and understand each other and be there for each other.

How are you feeling about this experiment? 
I feel positive still. It’s s good opportunity for me to learn how to keep healthy boundaries and develop healthy relationships.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Seven.