Brian and Sarah. Day 3.

“This is the point in relationships where I usually back out.”

 
 
 

Brian

Tell us about today!

We went up Butterfield Canyon and had a picnic while we watched the sunset.

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

I learned an important lesson today, she is really good at throwing rocks.. we played the game where you throw rocks at agreed upon targets (tonight it was road posts) and whoever hits it first, wins. She beat me each time we played. I wish I could say I let her win, but I was actually trying really hard to win. Needless to say we aren’t playing that game again ;)

I learned that I need to taper my expectations? That sounds bad, but let me explain. I tend to envision how I want things to work out, so when it doesn’t work out in that specific way, I get discouraged. When in all actuality, the way it worked out was still good, I tend to focus more on the fact that it didn’t work out the way I had expected. I hope that makes sense.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Six. Honestly, I feel like I had in my mind some pretty high expectations. These expectations were based on past dating experiences and relationships, so in my mind I expected the date to go a little more smoothly. I think it went well and any time with Sarah is a good time, but it didn’t hit this imaginary expectation that I had, so I felt a little discouraged afterwards.


On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Seven. I don’t know, maybe a 7?? I’m optimistic. We’ve known each other for 3 days now… I’m curious to see what happens these next 27 days, but I’m pretty confident we’ll at least be friends at the end of this, so that’s a good thing!


How are you feeling about this experiment? 
Soooo I made the commitment to myself that I would be as honest as possible during these 30 days when I write these posts, even if it requires me to step outside my comfort zone and show some vulnerability. So here it goes... this is the point in relationships where I usually back out. We’ve gone on a few dates, they’ve been fun, I think the girl is amazing, and I start to like her. However I don’t feel like there is a super strong romantic connection between us (yet🤞🏼). In this specific situation I feel like it might be a little bit one sided (me being the one more into it), so rather than moving forward and putting my heart further out there (to potentially get crushed) I choose to not pursue. What’s scary about this experiment is, I DON’T HAVE THAT OPTION!

So I think from this point forward, I’m stepping a little bit into the unknown.. and truthfully, I’m excited to see what I learn and how I grow. All I can say is I hope the feelings of anxiousness and stress go away soon:))


On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Seven.


Sarah

Tell us about today!

We drove up a canyon in the Oquirrh mountains and cooked some food on a camp stove and watched the sunset. We borrowed his parent’s truck and sat in the bed of the truck. He brought two different kinds of soup and let me choose which one I wanted. We (we’ll really just Brian) made some grilled cheese sandwiches to go along with our soup. We sat and talked.

I told him about how I was starting to feel anxious about the whole and he was on the same page as me which was comforting. There’s a list of 35 questions to ask your partner that’s supposed to help them fall in love so we asked each other a few of those questions. It was casual, nice, and I didn’t feel as anxious when we hung out tonight. We also talked a little about the daily logs and how honest we were when writing them. We both said we were trying to be very honest, and also how nerve wracking that is going to be for when they’re published. Brian is so fun to talk to. After dinner we played a short game of throwing rocks at certain things to see who could hit them first. By some strange turn of events I ended up winning haha. He probably let me win though.

On the drive home we started talking about the gospel and different things we learned from the past general conference.

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

I learned that Brian wanted to be a fighter pilot when he was younger. And that the most important things to him in a relationship are that the other person is kind, funny, and trustworthy.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Nine. We spent a good amount of time together and there was no pressure. We just sat, ate, and continued to get to know each other.


On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Seven. I feel great about where we’re at at this point. I didn’t really go into exactly why I was feeling anxious so far so I know I need to talk to him about that. I just told him that I was feeling anxious. We have our first therapy session tomorrow so I want to him about it beforehand so he knows where I stand.

How are you feeling about this experiment? 
I still feel positive about it. I feel like this experiment will be able to help teach me how to build a healthy relationship.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Seven.