Brian and Sarah. Day 22.

“I need to communicate with him better.”

 
 
 
 

Brian

Tell us about today!

Sarah and I had planned to go to a movie tonight, but then my cousin came into town and we met up for dinner. So we pushed our movie plans back for later in the night. It was nice of her to be flexible and allow me some more time to spend with him.

Earlier in the day Sarah texted me and apologized for being so non responsive and of course all bad feelings went away, but I needed to remember to still express how I felt yesterday for practice and we could both learn and move on from it.

We met up and went and saw “First Man” (I think that is what it was called. It’s about Neil Armstrong landing on the moon). I love space movies, so it was fun to watch it and we really liked it. After the movie we were able to chat for a bit in the car. I mustered up the courage and expressed some of the frustrations I’d been having over the last couple of days. And it was great! It turned into a really good conversation and I feel MUCH better:)

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

I learned today that she is sneaky good at scaring. I was sitting waiting for her to come through the front doors, but she came through the back, snuck up behind me and scared me. She got me good, I’ll give her that..

Lesson I learned for myself is it’s okay to get frustrated or bugged, those are normal human emotions, and it’s much better to bring it up and talk about it (in a healthy manner of course) rather than to sit with it and let it fester.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Eight. It was great! The movie was really good and reconnecting with Sarah was great as well. She was very understanding during our talk in the car and I felt validated in what I had been feeling. She’s honestly so rad and I’m super glad I’ve been able to go through this with her. I know we’ve had some hard times during this whole thing, but I think those experiences have been what I needed from this experiment.

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Seven. Still good friends haha

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Six.

Sarah

Tell us about today!

Today we met up in Sandy and went to see the movie “First Man”.

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

If you sneak up behind Brian in movie theaters he’s VERY easy to scare.

I need to communicate with him better. I’ve been terrible the last few days responding to his texts and so I have an opportunity to do better at that.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Five. It was good to see each other since it’s been a few days, but since we’ve broken up it’s been harder to try and keep seeing each other frequently, at least on my end. I was tired and out of it and I felt a little awkward and weird around Brian tonight because I didn’t feel like I had anything to talk about.

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Five. It’s been a harder week for sure. I haven’t communicated well with Brian and there were some instances I could have held bettering boundaries with him since it was a tough work week and I didn’t do that. There’s still room for growth in my goals but it’s been harder to want to meet up and see each other because it’s been a draining week.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Six.