Brian and Sarah. Day 20.

“If I’m being honest, I was a little put out tonight.”

 
 
 
 

Brian

Tell us about today!

We had originally planned to go to the gun range tonight to shoot guns, but when we met up it was pretty clear that Sarah wasn’t feeling up to it. So we just did dinner instead.

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

Nothing really.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Six. If I’m being honest, I was a little put out tonight and something kind of changed in me. Up to this point I’ve been pretty committed to working through the 30 days, but tonight it kind of clicked that I’m not really enjoying it anymore. I hate the feeling that I’m forcing Sarah to spend time with me. It’s exhausting and draining.

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Three. I don’t feel good about it... I feel like our relationship is actually getting a little worse right now.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Five.

Sarah

Tell us about today!

We went to dinner at Even Stevens in Draper by Brian's Work. We were planning on going to a indoor gun range along with dinner, but I was stressed from work and still had a lot to do so we just did dinner instead. I didn't outright say that that's what I needed though which I should have. It was a perfect time to set a boundary and say "you know what, I'm stressed and have a lot to do. Can we just do dinner tonight instead?" but I was hesitant. Brian noticed though so he asked if it would be best to only do dinner and I agreed.
I felt kinda bad because we had made those plans and I agreed to them already. I think partly why I didn't ask to only do dinner was because we had agreed to spend that time together that night. I wanted to show Brian that I valued his time and efforts so I wasn't going to say anything, but that wouldn't have helped the situation at all. I would have been stressed about the night with him and stressed about everything else I needed to do with work. I'm glad Brian noticed and spoke up for me, but I wish I would have spoken up for myself.

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

He used to eat bologna sandwiches all the time growing up.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Six. I was stressed today from work so I didn’t enjoy myself as much because I kept thinking of everything I needed to do when I got home. We were planning on hanging out longer but decided to just get dinner.

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Six. Same.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Five.