Brian and Sarah. Day 2.

“Am I getting ahead of myself?”

 
 
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Brian

Tell us about today!

Today I had some old friends throwing a Halloween party, so we went to that together and then afterwards we went to a friends house to watch a movie.

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

So I put Sarah in a situation that would put most people out of their comfort zone, myself included. We attended a Halloween party with several of my friends and she didn’t know anyone (technically, she barely knows me… however we did celebrate our 24 hour anniversary). I was very impressed with how she handled herself. She was very confident and was just so nice to have there. I was very impressed:)

I felt like I loosened up a little bit more today, it helps that I had home field advantage and was surrounded by friends. I don’t know if I learned anything new about myself today, however I have recognized a pattern emerging that has appeared in other relationships. It’s sometimes easier to expect failure (or even cause failure), rather than be vulnerable and enter the “unknown” (thank you, Brene Brown). This isn’t something new, however it is a pattern I’ve recognized in other relationships and am trying to recognize and rectify if/when it appears in mine and Sarah’s relationship (which tbh, it has😬😬).

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Eight. I felt like day 2 was much better than day 1. We were both more relaxed and it felt more real. It was fun to introduce her to friends and see her in that situation.


On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Eight. Am I getting ahead of myself?? I honestly, really enjoy my time with Sarah. She is funny in her own kind of way and just good to be around. I don’t feel like it’s a chore or a task to be with her.


How are you feeling about this experiment? 
I’m feeling good. There is something nice about knowing that I’m going to see the person again tomorrow. Looking forward to day 3!


On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Seven.


Sarah

Tell us about today!

Today we went to his friend’s Halloween party. He brought me a beautiful bouquet of flowers when he came to pick me up. He wrote a note for me on a napkin which I thought was kind of funny. There were a lot of young families and couples there at the party. Everyone was dressed up in costumes and there was food. We played a game where we wrote down Halloween themed things on paper and put them into bowls and each round was different (1st round you describe it, second round you describe it in one word, last round you act it out). Brian wrote down “Halloweenie” on one of his papers and it was hilarious to see someone try to describe that (I mean how DO you describe that? I’m not even sure I know what it means).

It was a lot of fun to meet his friends. They had nothing but great things to say about Brian and they were really friendly and welcoming. They had a lot of questions for us with this experiment we’re doing. I noticed I started to feel anxious when his friends asked about what happens at the end of the 30 days since it is all still new to me. After the party we went to his roommate’s parents house to watch the movie “Get Out”. I was a little tired beforehand so Brian stopped by McDonalds so we could get Dr Pepper (my favorite) to stay awake because I am notorious for falling asleep during movies.

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

I learned on the way over to watch a movie that he likes to scare people and he thinks it’s hilarious. He made me jump a little bit when we were touring the house. He was hiding in a dark doorway and jumped out at me. BUT I got him back during the movie WAY worse. Jumped like a little girl haha.

I also was able to see how thoughtful he is. He brought me flowers before we left, he was always willing to help out at the party, whenever his friend’s kids started crying he would try and comfort them, and he was picking up other people’s cups and plates that were sitting out when he went to throw away his own.

Something I learned about myself is that I was STILL in my head. I never noticed how much I get in my head when I’m on a date or dating someone, because I haven’t dated anyone really in a good while haha. I learned that I get anxious in relationships for the fear of the unknown/the future/how is it all going to play out?

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Eight. The party was great and it was good to see how he is around his friends and their kids. He’s just as nice with them as he is with me. I was a bit tired though so not as energetic as I wanted to be.


On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Seven. We always have a good time. Even if things don’t work out I feel like I’ve made a good friend.

How are you feeling about this experiment? 
I still feel positive about it and I still feel like there’s SO much I can learn and take away from this (like about commitment and just trying to get to know someone well in general while dating). Typically when I start to feel hesitant and scared that’s when I back out, so I’m interested to see how the rest of the experiment will go as I work through that.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Five.