Brian and Sarah. Day 10.

“I’m feeling a little overwhelmed about the time commitment…”

 
 
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Brian

Tell us about today!

We originally planned to do a game night, but schedules couldn’t come together so we went on a walk around Sugarhouse Park. We also had a therapy check in with Jordan.

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

She is really into cats and is a cat whisperer.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Seven. We hadn’t seen each other in a few days so it was good to see her again and we were able to go on a pretty long walk and talk about things. She’s great to have a conversation with. I feel like we are pretty open and honest with each other.

On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Seven. Not much has changed. This will be our first real week together. Last week I was gone for a few days, so it’ll be interesting how we work around our schedules.

How are you feeling about this experiment?

I need to keep on reminding myself why I’m doing this. To be honest, I feel like if there hasn’t been this romantic connection by now.. will it ever come? And so I’m focusing working on how I can improve my dating/relationship skills.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Six.

Sarah

Tell us about today!

Brian got back from his reunion today. We were going to play some games at my friend’s house but that fell through. We had our second counseling session and took a long walk outside. I’ve been feeling a little overwhelmed about the time commitment from this experiment so I talked with Brian about it. I’m so used to deciding what I’m doing with my time, who I’m sharing it with, and when. When Brian was gone I had a bit of that back since we just had to FaceTime and I felt like I was being selfish. I never realized I was being selfish with my time until then. It encourages me to be more giving of my spare time with my friends and family.

We talked about how we feel like we’re doing with our goals. One of my goals is to be better at holding boundaries and I feel like it’s been easier for me to do that. I had some experiences with a friend where I was able to do so and it felt good to be more honest with what’s on my mind.

We walked into Sugarhouse Park and saw a giant teddy bear sitting up on one of the park benches. This was at like 8:30 at night so it was pretty creepy. We walked up to it and took pictures by it haha. I kicked it’s food to make sure there wasn’t anyone inside of it because...you know.

I also talked a lot about my family and some of the hard things they’re going through. Kind of word vomited on him about that but he was a great listener.

What did you learn about them? What did you learn about yourself?

I learned about how he is in relationships and how he approaches them.


I learned the same about myself. I’ve thought about how I am in relationships and how I approach them to an extent but it was good to examine it a bit.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your time together today?

Seven. We always have good conversation.


On a scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

Six. Same as answer above

How are you feeling about this experiment? 

Still feel positive. Although if I’m being honest the past few days were harder because of how much time is committed to this experiment, but it was nice to talk to Brian about it and hear that he was having similar thoughts.

On a scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry with him/her?

Six.