Alicia and Brice. Day 28.

“We can make bird noises.”

 

Alicia


1. Give us the deets. How was your day?

Brice and I ate at the Cannon Center for lunch and they had ribs, so it was a pretty good day! My friend/coworker happened to be there for lunch with his brother and he said he spied on Brice and I. My coworker's brother commented that Brice looked uncomfortable. 28 days later and we still haven't connected... although we do randomly have a lot of factual/external things that are similar, like how even our weird talent we both can make bird noises.

 

2. Pop quiz: What color are your baes eyes? What’s something you have come to appreciate about your bae?

I'm pretty sure they are brown! Something I appreciate about Brice is that he invited me to the Zion trip! That was a lot of fun.



3. Scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

 Uh, like a 3. Something I realized today, is that there are a lot of things that feel like they are a "Brice's way or no way" sort of thing. In the first week or so, I wrote about how Brice doesn't feel he needs to give any of himself up to be in a relationship. I think sometimes he holds to that too tightly that I have to give things up. So when we first started TDB Brice suggested that each of us come up with the plan for one of the dates each week. He said it would be fun, because then we can try new things and see what the other enjoys. On our first date, I shared that I love Color Me Mine. A couple weeks ago I was hoping we would go there for our date and told Brice we will need a couple hours, so he asked what we were doing. I said Color Me Mine and he said he didn't like 3D art, to which I responded that it isn't technically 3D because you are painting something and he replied in a way that clearly demonstrated not being interested. So we got crepes instead, because he mentioned he likes crepes. Even filming our weird talents I thought it would be fun to do one video so we could interact together and he said he wanted to do two separate videos, so we could both submit one, so we did. There are a few other examples as well, but this is just another demonstration about how this has been difficult for me as having give and take is something I value in a relationship.


4. What is something weird we wouldn’t know about your relationship?

We talked about this question and said that we feel like people know the weird things about our relationships, because we write a daily log. I think something weird is that we go to the Cannon Center often. Brice was trying to figure out weird things we both have done or like, but I said I think the question is asking about our interactions together. We didn't come up with anything...


5. Please name one weird/unique trick your bae can do and attach a video/pic, please.

He can make a sound like a bird. I initially thought my weird talent could be climbing ropes, but there wasn't one nearby, so I made my embarrassing turkey sound.


6. Is there anything you want to do differently tomorrow?

It's our last date the two of us tomorrow! Maybe I'll try to be more assertive about where I want to go, because he didn't want to go to the places I recommended.

 

Brice


1. Give us the deets. How was your day?

My day was good! Started off by working out, doing some homework, and then met up with Alicia for lunch! That's when I found out how deeply connected we are to birds. Rather, we can make bird noises. After that, I just had work for the rest of the day.

You can tell things are starting to get pretty low effort between us. With only a few days left, we're both just fulfilling our commitment but not much more than that. Our conversations have been reduced to small talk with a few nuggets of interesting things thrown in. That part is especially difficult for me because I do not like small talk. And it's especially difficult because Alicia can't really talk about her day. "How was your day?" "Oh, I had a client this morning." "Oh. Neat." We can't go much deeper than that. And we don't have enough shared history to have what my friend calls "nonversations" where we just talk about nothing of importance and share stories and random thoughts and whatnot. Things just flow at that point. Small talk is very halting. Lots of abrupt subject changes, misunderstandings, etc.

2. Pop quiz: What color are your baes eyes? What’s something you have come to appreciate about your bae?

Blue. The dedication she has to getting a PhD! It's not easy and she's done in a couple months! She'll be a doctor!


3. Scale from 1-10 how positively do you feel about your relationship at this point?

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Alicia is a great person and has a lot to offer to a relationship. It's just that we turned out to not be a good fit for each other.



4. What is something weird we wouldn’t know about your relationship?

I'm pretty sure all the weird things have been said by this point. Nothing else weird has popped up yet.



5. Please name one weird/unique trick your bae can do and attach a video/pic, please.

She makes a good turkey.

6. Is there anything you want to do differently tomorrow?

Making sure it's a good last date.