Alicia and Brice. Day 10.

“More self-revealing”

That black blob is a penguin.

That black blob is a penguin.

 

Alicia

1. Tell us about today. How is your bae doing?

Today was a good day! At work I talked with my coworkers about some ideas that Brice and I talked in the car about yesterday. I liked what one of my coworkers said, he shared that relationships take sacrifice, but not too much sacrifice. If you stay too independent, then you don't attach to the person and there isn't really a relationship, but if you sacrifice too much of your self then there isn't really a person left to be in a relationship with. Tonight I asked Brice about a question in the log from yesterday, he thought I asked about the relationship truth bomb, so he shared that. Although I didn't ask about that one, I like what he wrote or at least I like what I remembered about what he wrote! He talked about how there isn't a universal way to be in a relationship. I wonder if sometimes I try to figure out the way the relationship is "supposed to be" instead of being present in the relationship I am in.

Brice and I went to the Soap Factory! It is an interesting place, but it was fun! I really enjoyed my time with Brice. We sniffed a whole lotta essential oils and the reaction he gave when he didn't like the smell made me laugh every time. My head hurt before we went and now my head is a different sort of hurting after all those smells. It was fun being together and having an experience together. I think this weekend really helped me feel more comfortable and I am glad that I was able to do what I wrote yesterday that I wanted to do today, just enjoy being with him and not put too much pressure on the emotional connection. We remembered to take a picture! I look like a dork, but that's kind of my norm. I suggested we take the picture in the shower, because soap. Also, with clothes on, come on people, you don't go from quick hugs to showering. Anyways, he thought it was weird, so we took a picture in the rain, but you probably can't tell, so I figured I'd explain it here.

 

2. HAPPY DAY TEN! In ten words (or less, we ain’t stingy), sum up what you’ve learned so far.

"Commitment is great, compatibility is good, and people are multifaceted."    -Adapted Billy Currington song. My adaptation may be a bit less catchy though.

 

3. Scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry?

I would rate that a 5. I really do enjoy spending time with Brice, but there are some elements that help me with chemistry that we are still building in the relationship.

 

4. Gif or meme to represent your feelings

 

Brice

1. Tell us about today. How is your bae doing?

We went on a date to the Soap Factory today. She made a couple of penguin soaps and I made some dinosaur soaps. We got to pick our own scents for the soap which was just us choosing from a ton of essential oils. I have never smelled more foul smelling things in such a short amount of time. They were gross. On our way back from there, Alicia got brave and asked me what I wrote in my log yesterday for what's surprised me about my bae so far. I told her. She said she wrote that she was surprised that I haven't been in more relationships. Ha I'm not.


2. HAPPY DAY TEN! In ten words (or less, we ain’t stingy), sum up what you’ve learned so far.

A haiku:

Thirty days with bae

Commitment becomes less fear -

More self-revealing

3. Scale from 1-10 how would you rate your chemistry?

5. I can definitely see Alicia's efforts to reach out and connect with me. For example, she just texted me about our date tonight, but referenced something I brought up last week. Or she'll make puns because I like them. It's hard not to appreciate those. However, I can't seem to find ways to connect back the same way. I feel like she's been able to get to know me better than I know her. Maybe it's because she's a therapist and it's normal for interactions to be that way? She asks the questions, shares a bit from her own life, and then listens to what the other person has to say. I just haven't had much of a chance to ask questions of my own, but that's also my fault because I know she'll ask good questions so I don't have to put as much thought into that. But I should.


4. Gif or meme to represent your feelings