From Our Baes
I want to be clear that the point of this experiment was never to set people up into long-term relationships. It was to learn things, and by wiz, we have learned things. The success of Thirty Day Bae is in no way tied to the long-term success of our relationship. The lessons I have learned here will be invaluable in this or any relationship.
I was surprised by how encouraging my family and friends were. They’re used to me trying out random things, but I wasn’t sure if they’d understand why I’d do something this. I didn’t think anyone would be a jerk, but there was an overwhelming response of ‘this is an AWESOME idea, and an AWESOME thing for you to be doing.’
Make a small commitment, then another one, and see what happens. When you’re committed, make every effort to give them your best. Give your relationship every opportunity to grow.
We are living proof that chemistry does not need to be the foundation of a relationship. I was very surprised to find that our chemistry grew after committing to each other.
I’ve learned my feelings don’t need to be at a ‘10’ in all areas, every single day, to justify entering/staying in a relationship.
One of my big lessons learned from this experiment is that dating is most enjoyable when you are living in the moment.
I learned that I’m more ready for a relationship than I thought I was. It was nice to have ‘my person.’
My goals for this experiment were to learn how to build healthy relationships and how to set healthy boundaries. I feel like I’ve been able to do both.